What is most difficult?

 
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21 May 2016 10:07
 

“What is most difficult is to be perfectly at rest, not activating the conceptual faculty.”  -  Zen master Yuanwu

 
 
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21 May 2016 18:14
 

Another way to think about difficulty:

“You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.”—Eleanor Roosevelt

More inspiring to me at this point in my life.

 
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unsmoked - 21 May 2016 10:07 AM

“What is most difficult is to be perfectly at rest, not activating the conceptual faculty.”  -  Zen master Yuanwu

“To succeed it is necessary to melt and let go and spontaneously attain a state of great rest.”  -  Yuanwu

 
 
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01 June 2016 13:02
 

What is most difficult should be assigned to someone else to do.  Then you claim all the credit for being a good manager.

 
 
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Dennis Campbell - 01 June 2016 01:02 PM

What is most difficult should be assigned to someone else to do.  Then you claim all the credit for being a good manager.

You want to know what the soup tastes like.  You hire the best chef in the world and she says it’s good, but you still don’t know what it tastes like.  wink

 
 
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22 June 2016 08:38
 
unsmoked - 21 May 2016 10:07 AM

“What is most difficult is to be perfectly at rest, not activating the conceptual faculty.”  -  Zen master Yuanwu


Tis true. I saw this meme the other day that describes my meditation practice perfectly if you replace ‘horse’ with ‘mind’ (including, even, the rather cheery attitude about it - I feel a bit of “lack of perfectionist guilt” that I don’t even beat myself up over it the way I so often hear practitioners describe):


Other Horses: Oh, is that your inside leg and outside rein? Okay, I’ll just start collecting and getting into a nice frame for you and work on my topline. No worries, remember to keep your Eq and I’ll just carry myself nicely for you!


My Horse: HUUUURRRR WATS COLLECTION NO I AM NOT A HORSE I AM A UNICORN NEEEIIGHH I AM A GIRAFFE OH MY GOD IS THAT GRASS GROWING OVER THERE DID YOU SEE THAT BUTTERFLY CAN I GO CHASE IT COLLECTING IS FOR LOSERS WHAT IS A TOPLINE ANYWAYS CAN I HAVE A CARROT

 

 
 
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11 August 2016 03:09
 

The best work is not what is most difficult for you; it is what you do best…  J P Sartre.

 

 
 
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Hypersoup - 11 August 2016 03:09 AM

The best work is not what is most difficult for you; it is what you do best…  J P Sartre


In ABA therapy people talk a lot about the 80/20 principle - teaching should be 80% in the domain of the familiar, mastered, and confident areas, and 20% in the novel. This seems about right to me when it comes to people learning to channel habits in new directions that are a better fit for current circumstances. Children who grew up in a volatile environment, for example, might go on to simply recreate that environment 100%, or they might find something that is a close fit but productive - playing peacemaker or solving problems in an unpredictable and high stakes environment, be it firefighting or the fashion industry. I don’t know if it’s actually 80/20, I think they more or less made that up, but if you don’t have a strong base of solid skills you’ll simply fail in whatever it is you’re trying to do; if you don’t have some room for growth then you had better love your current way of being because it is going to be 100% the same until the end of time.

 
 
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25 August 2016 03:05
 

Hey thanks for that NL. Helpful thoughts always welcome…