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What turns people on?

 
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06 December 2018 19:07
 
Brick Bungalow - 06 December 2018 05:33 PM
Jan_CAN - 06 December 2018 11:25 AM
Brick Bungalow - 06 December 2018 11:06 AM

Authenticity for sure. But it’s a hard thing to gauge. I think we are very good at faking realness. Particularly men.

Yes, it is hard to gauge.  I think perhaps that (some) women are a little better at detecting fakeness (more intuitive)?

I wonder… really, I have no idea… do you suppose authenticity as a personal attribute is even an intelligible quantity most of the time?

Certainly there are manifest frauds who lack this attribute but in general do you suppose that BEING authentic necessarily corresponds with being perceived as authentic? I strongly suspect that it does not. I think we (we meaning mostly me) are inclined to inject our own impressions and preferences with justifications about a person being this or that or the other…

Yes, I think it is.

Of course, initial impressions can be misleading.  But in general, with a little time one can often tell when someone is just trying to impress, projecting or saying what they think you want to hear.  Which can be manipulation or defensiveness; body language, listening and a little intuition can often tell us which.  I’ve never liked or been much good at ‘playing games’, but I think I’m fairly good at listening and picking up on cues.

I think that we all do a certain amount of injecting our own impressions or interpretations about others; I suppose we can only hope to do this as fairly as we can.

[ Edited: 06 December 2018 19:41 by Jan_CAN]
 
 
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Jan_CAN - 06 December 2018 06:36 PM
GAD - 06 December 2018 06:06 PM
Jan_CAN - 06 December 2018 10:52 AM

Interesting.  I (the only woman) posted what I think was an okay response to what seemed like a somewhat serious OP and get no feedback.  Whereas the guys ..... hmm.

Kind of a turn-off.

Damn you love being the poor woman. I took your post as more PC then desire, being a poor woman you are afraid what people might think if you said what you really desired so you repress it…making you a poor woman…

For your information, I am a formidable woman ... and you have no sense of humour.

I can only go by what you post and you spend half your time posting about being a poor women and the other half complaining that you aren’t being treated like a poor woman. You are like one of those bike guys who wears spandex in traffic, they want to act like car and then yell that you aren’t treating them like a bike.

 

 
 
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06 December 2018 21:35
 

GAD stares at guys in spandex while waiting in traffic.  Ha!  Whatever turns you on, man.

 
 
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LadyJane - 06 December 2018 09:35 PM

GAD stares at guys in spandex while waiting in traffic.  Ha!  Whatever turns you on, man.

LOL! More like I stare them down as I curse them in my head and fantasize they hit a pothole.

 
 
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GAD, whining, to Jan_CAN - 06 December 2018 08:13 PM

I can only go by what you post and you spend half your time posting about [. . . .]

I thought I noticed her tongue in her cheek with her first post, GAD. We were having a nice, jocular time, with no one being too serious about anything. Some topics seem to require a light touch to keep them moving along in productive ways. Nice job closing things out.

 
 
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GAD - 06 December 2018 09:52 PM
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GAD stares at guys in spandex while waiting in traffic.  Ha!  Whatever turns you on, man.

LOL! More like I stare them down as I curse them in my head and fantasize they hit a pothole.

There’s no way you don’t have road rage. Lol

 
 
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GAD stares at guys in spandex while waiting in traffic.  Ha!  Whatever turns you on, man.

LOL! More like I stare them down as I curse them in my head and fantasize they hit a pothole.

There’s no way you don’t have road rage. Lol

Only in my head.

 
 
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08 December 2018 21:26
 
GAD - 08 December 2018 07:48 PM
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GAD stares at guys in spandex while waiting in traffic.  Ha!  Whatever turns you on, man.

LOL! More like I stare them down as I curse them in my head and fantasize they hit a pothole.

There’s no way you don’t have road rage. Lol

Only in my head.

I thought we were talking about what turns people on.

 
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Skipshot - 08 December 2018 09:26 PM
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LadyJane - 06 December 2018 09:35 PM

GAD stares at guys in spandex while waiting in traffic.  Ha!  Whatever turns you on, man.

LOL! More like I stare them down as I curse them in my head and fantasize they hit a pothole.

There’s no way you don’t have road rage. Lol

Only in my head.

I thought we were talking about what turns people on.

We are talking about guys in spandex, you aren’t turned on?

 
 
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LadyJane - 06 December 2018 09:35 PM

GAD stares at guys in spandex while waiting in traffic.  Ha!  Whatever turns you on, man.

LOL! More like I stare them down as I curse them in my head and fantasize they hit a pothole.

There’s no way you don’t have road rage. Lol

Only in my head.

I thought we were talking about what turns people on.

We are talking about guys in spandex, you aren’t turned on?

This is one of those times I wish I was gay.

 
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09 December 2018 07:58
 

There’s something about appearing strong and healthy looking that’s universal, but there’s another thing about having a particular culture swagger that’s hard to fake. What’s that qoute, find out who you are and do that on purpose? It’s like that with confidence, sex and “types.”

 
 
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Confidence.  Kindness. A good sense of humour.  All help.
Being built like Jason Momoa also helps, I gather from my wife.

 
 
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Jefe - 09 December 2018 09:35 AM

Confidence.  Kindness. A good sense of humour.  All help.
Being built like Jason Momoa also helps, I gather from my wife.

That’s just based on bullshit that women tell themselves so they don’t feel guilty about wanting to get pounded by a man. We are all trying to get to pound town, guys just want to get to pound town and start pounding, but women they want you to be nice, open the door, give them flowers, look into eyes, listen to their whining and tell them what you offer them, and then when they’ve convinced themselves they’ve done their due diligence and it’s OK for you to take them to pound town and make them scream in ecstasy, then you can get to the pounding.

 
 
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GAD - 09 December 2018 10:46 AM
Jefe - 09 December 2018 09:35 AM

Confidence.  Kindness. A good sense of humour.  All help.
Being built like Jason Momoa also helps, I gather from my wife.

That’s just based on bullshit that women tell themselves so they don’t feel guilty about wanting to get pounded by a man. We are all trying to get to pound town, guys just want to get to pound town and start pounding, but women they want you to be nice, open the door, give them flowers, look into eyes, listen to their whining and tell them what you offer them, and then when they’ve convinced themselves they’ve done their due diligence and it’s OK for you to take them to pound town and make them scream in ecstasy, then you can get to the pounding.

Never change, GAD.  You are a rock in the stormy seas of reality.

 
 
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09 December 2018 11:07
 
Jefe - 09 December 2018 10:52 AM
GAD - 09 December 2018 10:46 AM
Jefe - 09 December 2018 09:35 AM

Confidence.  Kindness. A good sense of humour.  All help.
Being built like Jason Momoa also helps, I gather from my wife.

That’s just based on bullshit that women tell themselves so they don’t feel guilty about wanting to get pounded by a man. We are all trying to get to pound town, guys just want to get to pound town and start pounding, but women they want you to be nice, open the door, give them flowers, look into eyes, listen to their whining and tell them what you offer them, and then when they’ve convinced themselves they’ve done their due diligence and it’s OK for you to take them to pound town and make them scream in ecstasy, then you can get to the pounding.

Never change, GAD.  You are a rock in the stormy seas of reality.

I’ve watched to many “romantic” movies trying to be the nice guy the woman wants to let drive her to pound town and I figured some shit out a long the way.

Here’s a good one; get a “romantic” movie that your wife is really into, and after the guy has hopped through all the hoops and the woman is ready to go to pound town, turn it off and say we know what happens no need to watch it and watch the hilarity of not getting the big payoff after two and half hours of boring courtship games.

 
 
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